I wonder if there are people around you or even yourself who are like this – all your friends are girls, and when talking with boys, you seem particularly stiff. The whole person seems to exude an aura of not wanting to fall in love. But in fact, deep down, you long and look forward to the arrival of love, just without showing it on the surface, so that people misunderstand?

Here are seven possible reasons that may be keeping you from having good luck in love!

Too demanding

It’s a common topic. Generally, people who haven’t been in a relationship claim that it’s because they haven’t met someone they find attractive, but in fact, it’s just that their requirements are too high or even unrealistic. Many ordinary-looking girls expect to meet a tall, rich, and handsome guy who has the looks of Daniel Wu, the talent of Jay Chou, the humor of Dayo Wong, and even the wealth of Li Ka-shing. But think about it, how many Eddie Pengs and Daniel Wus are there in this world?

Double standards

Many girls hope that their significant other will be good to them and have a good appearance. Originally, this is not a problem. However, the most feared thing is that girls have double standards and demand that the man be perfect with a score of 10, while they themselves can only have a score of 4. For example, they want their partner to have Eddie Peng’s abs, while they themselves can have a figure like Lo Fun. The guy must report his whereabouts to them at any time, while they themselves can selectively inform their whereabouts, and so on.

It should be known that in getting along between men and women, equality and mutual respect are extremely important. If you always “be strict with others and lenient with yourself,” then even if the other party is willing to be with you, the relationship will definitely not last long.

Too passive

Yes, it’s good for women to be reserved, but being too introverted and passive is of no benefit at all. Especially in today’s Hong Kong where there are fewer men and more women, many girls will take the initiative for love. If you’re not careful, you can easily be “taken off the market.”

Especially if you are introverted and don’t like socializing with people very much, it’s easy to become an invisible person with no sense of presence. Everyone’s impression of you is mysterious because they don’t know you very well. Even if there is a guy who is interested in you, it’s difficult for him to cater to your interests and inquire about you from friends. Therefore, whether it’s to know more potential boyfriend candidates or to train your social skills, you should be more active.

Too tough/too masculine

We’ve heard a lot about domineering presidents, but domineering women are probably not very popular in reality. Those with too tough or too masculine personalities mostly lack femininity and give people the impression of being independent and strong. They rarely act coquettishly towards boys. Naturally, boys will feel that you don’t need to rely on others or be protected. It’s easy to be put in the “brother zone.” You might as well show weakness to men more and show the gentle side of women.

Too direct

It is said that getting along between men and women is an art. Sometimes being too straightforward and direct in front of boys is not a good thing. Whether it’s the tone or the content, it’s better to think before speaking. Avoid vulgar language or dirty jokes. Try to avoid talking about right and wrong as much as possible, so as not to make the other party think you are too “Hong Kong girl.”

A bit resistant to boys

This is perfectly normal for girls who come from all-girls schools or have been in an environment with only women for a long time. Because it’s difficult to contact men since childhood, they don’t know how to get along with them. When talking, being alone with a man, or even sending ambiguous text messages, they will become very nervous. Their reactions will be stiff and strange, they will say the wrong things or even become silent. As a result, the man will misunderstand that you are not interested in him and waste the opportunity in vain.

In fact, as long as you relax and treat the other person as an ordinary friend, smile more and show your beautiful side to increase your affinity. Maybe the other party will be charmed by your inadvertently exuded charm!

Too negative, emitting negative energy

This last point is overlooked by many people. Complaining and speaking in an unconfident way are actually landmines. Most boys like girls who are sunny, love to smile, and have positive thoughts because this kind of girl is more comfortable and natural to get along with. So, don’t say things like complaining about work, saying unlucky words, or thinking that you are not as beautiful as a certain girl. Try to maintain a positive, optimistic, and positive image to attract boys’ attention.

After reading the above seven points, have you been hit? (Smile) Although good luck in love is more or less innate to some extent, whether you can get out of the single life is often in your own hands. You can definitely make changes to turn things around!